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Hey Sensitive Feelers – Are You Taking Caring of These 3 Emotional Boundaries? image

I've found that many of the women who hire me for private coaching do so because they want to get stronger in themselves and express this more powerfully in their world. They want to keep their soft, caring heart, yet grow a backbone. They want to hear their own voice and use it on their own behalf. They want to preserve their sensitivity yet no longer be a doormat. They want to take care of themselves as much as they take care of others. These women are the healers of the world. The nurturers, the caregivers, the deep divers of the soul. They create beauty. They are here to connect, uplift and inspire. They know their loving has the capacity to heal. Yet, they may ...

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How To Resist The Urge To Bolt (From a Former Serial Bolter) image

I've bolted from everything from hot yoga to high school (I think I lasted about 4 weeks in the 9th grade), to being held against my own will in a creepy old drunk mans car when I was a girl. (Actually, the police helped with that one. They stopped at the lone parked car to see if everything was okay and I ran). There have also been many awkward misunderstandings in friendships, to moments that could have been intimate but I withdrew instead. When I really think about it, bolting has been a way of life in many regards. It's the survival function of the brain that is seeking to escape from danger, no matter if the danger is real ...

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The Beauty in Slowing Down image

One thing I see as a measure of maturity and growth is an ability to get into reality with transformation. Personal mastery recognizes that it's a PROCESS. Lasting change takes time. Any programs that offer quick fixes, instant success, or shortening the timeline to financial freedom all rest on a foundation of aversion. It's so normal, er... human, to push away the discomfort of slow and steady growth and instead want instant relief. Slow but steady requires moving through insecurity, moving beyond doubt, and lots of stumbling. This part is sometimes agonizing. Hence the prevalence of substance use, gambling, fad diets or any other approach that falsely promises immediacy. I find what this urgency covers is a deep insecurity and mistrust of life. When we ...

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Musings On Allowing Good Things to Happen image

I've been waking up cranky these past few days. Filled with a low-grade sense of deflation -- 'what is there to be excited about?' my mind laments. No big whoops happening. In fact, things are really solid and really good. My relationship with Nicholas keeps getting more extraordinary, my coaching practice is filled with glorious and amazing people, our home is lovely, and I am surrounded by loved ones. Sometimes the monkey mind has no clue what to do with this! I've known for some time that my path of learning through life is an experiential one. It’s less about getting the next shiny object that will temporarily create sensation but recedes back into the normalcy of whatever my internal baseline is. It is ...

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3 Tips to Avert Disaster When Communicating With Your Man image

Thanks to Adrian, my new trainer at Equinox, I couldn’t walk today, which is why I’m writing you from my bathtub. I'm sure you would laugh if you could see me -- with a rose petal face mask on, skidding around as if I was ice-skating on my rear end. My tub is a bit too big and the salts make it extra slippery. I took a G-rated selfie to send to you but chickened out. Why am I in my tub and why does it matter to you? I'm in my tub because I'm playing a new game. The game is to stay so close to that which takes care of my body and nurtures my heart while incorporating these things into ...

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Taking Off The Mask image

I remember memorizing the script from Teen Magazine on 'How To Act So A Boy Will Like You' in 7th grade. An actual script on what to say, how to behave, and what to wear. I was convinced that if I acted in the 'right' way, I would be accepted, loved, and seen for who I knew I was in my heart, yet often felt too shy to express. (Confession -- I still feel this way sometimes). I suspect many of us are united by early adaptation to the roles of appropriate behavior. Now applicable to our current business and our love lives, we’ve all internalized a script of how we should be. We are smart people. We think by perfecting our ...

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A Love Letter to Those That Are Here to Rise image

I am always amazed when I meet other women like me - I feel like we share a secret badge of honor that is not visible behind the blow-out or the LV handbag. We are the women who may appear successful, well put together, attractive, happy, and living good lives -- because we are. And we have earned it. What you don't see are the battle scars. We are the women that were abused when we were young, the ones who attempted suicide, did drugs, got raped or acted out our pain in wild ways. The survivors. I am sure you know these women. Maybe it was your sister. Your best friend. Your daughter. Maybe you are one of them. On the outside, things ...

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Conscious Uncoupling From a Friend? image

Thanks to Katherine Woodward Thomas, we all became familiar with the term 'Conscious Uncoupling' when Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin chose to divorce. I have always been rather messy inside when it comes to break ups. Churny feelings, fragmented thoughts, and a veritable feast of sensations. Over the years, I've marveled at the variety of hurdles I can unconsciously require others to surmount, as my own unique form of defensiveness and protection. This is all in order to actually allow someone in, and to vulnerably trust with my tender, sensitive heart. And once someone is in, they are IN. Deep. I attach, I devote, I love, I want, I need, I expect, I demand -- I know, all of the things we aren't ...

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How I Finally Got a 65 Year Old British Bitty Named Mavis To Get Naked image

This blog is devoted to Mavis -- who would be partially horrified and deeply amused if she was still with us and knew I was telling her story. Mavis took me into her sound healing community in the South of France at a time that I wasn’t feeling so hot, although the mid-July weather was blazing. I was mid-chapter in my epic global travels, inspired by a drug overdose which led to a spiritual awakening. I had picked up a French stomach bug that lasted for about six weeks and was giving me the most horrendous stomach pain and diarrhea -- all the things that bring a young 23-year old woman shame. I was left with a sense of being out ...

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