Have you ever felt like the respect you deserve—whether from yourself or others—is somehow missing? I know I have. As women, we live in a world that often undervalues our voices, our bodies, and our contributions. But here’s what I’ve learned: reclaiming respect starts within.
Self-respect isn’t something we wait for; it’s something we cultivate. It’s the foundation for how we experience ourselves and teach others to treat us. When we learn to honor ourselves, everything changes—our relationships, our leadership, and the way we move through the world.
The 3 Areas Where Women Struggle Most with Respect
1. Criticizing Our Bodies
For so many of us, self-criticism has become second nature—especially when it comes to our bodies. I’ve spent years on this journey myself, learning to shift from judgment to gratitude. Instead of focusing on what I thought was “wrong,” I began thanking my body for what it does for me every day. This simple practice rewires the brain toward self-respect and self-compassion.
2. Undermining Our Abilities
How often do we hesitate to ask for a raise, doubt our qualifications, or feel the weight of imposter syndrome? I’ve seen this time and time again with my clients, and I’ve experienced it myself. One woman I worked with—a brilliant entrepreneur—was reluctant to increase her salary because she felt she “didn’t deserve it.” Together, we worked on shifting that belief, and not only did she double her salary, but she received a multimillion-dollar donation for her nonprofit that same week.
3. Avoiding Conflict
I get it—none of us like conflict. But staying silent to “keep the peace” comes at a cost. It harms our self-respect and teaches others that it’s okay to cross our boundaries. A few weeks ago, I was in a high-stakes meeting, surrounded by brilliant leaders. When someone repeatedly interrupted me, I had to speak up and say, “Let me finish my thought.” It wasn’t easy, but it worked. Not only did I feel respected, but the room itself relaxed. Small moments like this help us set boundaries and teach others how to treat us.
Practical Steps to Reclaim Respect
Reclaiming respect doesn’t happen overnight, but small, intentional actions make all the difference:
- Practice self-compassion alongside self-honesty. Look at yourself with kindness, even when it’s hard.
- Set small boundaries. Say “no” when you need to.
- Honor your voice. Speak your truth calmly and authentically, even if it feels uncomfortable at first.
The Ripple Effect of Respect
Here’s the truth: reclaiming respect isn’t just about us. Each time we choose to honor ourselves—whether it’s setting a boundary, asking for what we need, or speaking up—we inspire others to do the same. Together, we’re creating a cultural shift where women’s voices, needs, and contributions are valued.
What’s one way you can show yourself more respect today? I’d love to hear from you—share your thoughts in the comments below.
Let’s rise together.
